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Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

This post was so fun to read.

My forever questions: who, in any tradition, is practicing being awesome at relationships? At giving and receiving love? At resolving misunderstandings? Transforming conflict?

I appreciate art, medicine and a really well-designed logistical plan, but these other topics matter to me so much more. And I think it’s what at least a significant chunk of people are really asking about when they ask about morality.

Recently in a recorded conversation with Charlie, you spoke about man in an elevator who whose companion was annoyed with him. This man was able to transform the conversation in some way that both made his partner feel heard, but also dissolved the frustration of the situation. Who is the best at this? Who is even quite good at it, enough to offer instruction?

The absence of aspirational examples seems to be part of the reason why people get so upset when “so-and-so person I admired had sex with the wrong person.” People are looking for role models who are awesome at navigating relationships when the stakes are high, like when sex or anger are in the mix. They project their desire for a heroic example onto all manner of targets. And I get it—I can’t think even think of an imaginary ideal like Achilles or Merlin, but for interpersonal heroism. We have so many examples of heroes who are smart, hot, rich, enlightened, powerful, interesting, agile, fearless, the very best at violence—who is the very best at mediating conflict so no party feels humiliated? Where is our warrior class of citizens who knows how to diffuse a bar fight before punches are thrown?

I don’t want to “face personal challenges with gentleness and intelligence to attain spiritual realization.” Facing personal challenges with gentleness and intelligence seems fully self-justifying! I would prefer to practice that directly.

There is so much be gained, in so many different domains of human activity, by valuing expertise in these areas. Where are the people being heroic and awesome *like this*?

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> This post was so fun to read.

Glad you enjoyed it!

> My forever questions: who, in any tradition, is practicing being awesome at relationships? At giving and receiving love? At resolving misunderstandings? Transforming conflict?

These are excellent questions. There are many traditions that teach these. Buddhism is, unfortunately, mostly not an example. (There are rare exceptions, but I wouldn't particularly recommend them.)

These are major themes in some threads of Christianity, I believe. (Not my area of expertise.) Also of psychotherapy, counseling, and coaching. And various personal development systems. And so on.

> I think it’s what at least a significant chunk of people are really asking about when they ask about morality.

That seems right, and an important insight! As one example, I first got seriously interested in morality in the context of difficult issues in relationships with girlfriends. (Moral philosophy was a great disappointment, as was psychotherapy, and at the time I couldn't find much of anything else.)

> Who is even quite good at it, enough to offer instruction?

Well, in my opinion, Charlie... You probably know about their "Kaleidoscope of Interaction" course, but for the benefit of anyone listening in (or in case you don't):

https://vajrayananow.com/kaleidoscope-of-interaction and

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/vajrayananow/907748

There isn't a scheduled repeat of this currently, but Charlie now includes much of the material in their retreats; the next one upcoming is https://www.tickettailor.com/events/vajrayananow/1260332?

> The absence of aspirational examples seems to be part of the reason why people get so upset when “so-and-so person I admired had sex with the wrong person.” People are looking for role models who are awesome at navigating relationships when the stakes are high, like when sex or anger are in the mix. They project their desire for a heroic example onto all manner of targets.

Another great insight!

> I can’t think even think of an imaginary ideal like Achilles or Merlin, but for interpersonal heroism.

There's examples I find inspiring in novels. Romance novels, in particular. I personally like combined romance-and-adventure novels (maybe because I'm a guy). Examples that come to mind: _Bratt Farrar_; the _Thief_ series, particularly _The Queen of Attolia_ (second in the series but it would probably work to start with it); the character Geralt in the _Witcher_ mythos; T. Kingfisher's _Saint of Steel_ books (with several unusual characters who fit your bill).

> Facing personal challenges with gentleness and intelligence seems fully self-justifying!

Yes. I'm not very interested in "spiritual realization." Actually, not interested at all.

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Oh, something I was going to say, and forgot: Although it's not usually taught explicitly, Vajrayana does have relevant resources. This tweet from Jake Orthwein earlier today is highly relevant: https://x.com/JakeOrthwein/status/1820551525305127342

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Aug 7Liked by David Chapman

Thank you for this thoughtful response! Just to echo one thing you mentioned for anyone listening in—I did take Charlie's "Kaleidoscope of Interaction" last summer and found it hugely useful. Strong recommend! I wish there were more things like this course in the world, with a variety contexts and flavors.

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Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

I think Joe Hudson embodies and teaches a lot of what you are mentioning here.

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Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

My e-mail program apparently broke and I first received an e-mail from you simply with the subject „You should be a God-Emperor“ and no content.

That was disorienting and refreshing.

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Perfect

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Aug 6·edited Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

The critiques of the Western axioms are abundantly justified, but their Eastern counterparts don't seem to get their due nearly as well. That benevolent God-Emperor production (even accepting that it is in fact feasible, for the sake of the argument) could get stymied by bureaucracy for centuries (millenia?) sure is concerning, clearly they didn't get everything right over there either. It appears that the need for some kind of superman to sort this out is still present.

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Aug 7Liked by David Chapman

> According to Scott, the motivation for one sort of contemporary slave morality is to never have to feel inferior to anyone in any way. You can attempt to accomplish that by denying that anyone is better than anyone else in any way. Specifically, anyone who might appear to be superior in some way is actually extremely bad because they are oppressors or some such species of villain. This entails the stance that better is worse. That is—obviously—false and harmful.

The corollary of this, which I saw operating in my own psyche, is that being “good” means never feeling superior to anyone else. As soon as you feel superior to another in any domain, that part of you must be taken down, dismantled and put away. If you’re feeling superior, you must be on your way to acting villainous and oppressing someone. Giving in to these ideas can be severely self-limiting. Self censorship is often worse than that which comes from the outside!

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Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

This type of thing was of particular interest to me in this post:

- how Western axioms of thought are fundamentally dysfunctional.

- how the Ancient Greek Philosophers are responsible for most of the world's problems by promulgating this (wild!)

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Yes, increasingly these seem important to me. I've been saying for a few years now that I ought to write about them in depth. I suppose that would be useful!

It means *doing philosophy* though, or rather *undoing philosophy*, and that seems extremely tiresome. I'm not sure I'm bodhisatva enough to take *that* on :)

But, maybe. Maybe soon, even.

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Just wanted to add a +1 to the comment above. I found this part of the piece particularly eye-opening. Would love to see you try to dismantle some more of these axioms - or, if not, could you point me in the direction of someone/something that has already engaged in this kind of stuff?

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Thanks! It's quite strange—I've been puzzling about this—no one seems to have written an accessible debunking of Greek philosophy in general. I haven't looked hard, but no one seems to have written an accessible debunking of specific central Greek ideas, either; nor an inaccessible academic general debunking. In fact, I'm having trouble remembering any pushback against Greek stuff at all; although I'm sure there must be plenty, some of which I'd need to track down.

Greek philosophy is somehow treated as Holy. You aren't expected to explicitly believe it, but you aren't allowed to challenge it either. "Plato was a tendentious idiot and got absolutely everything wrong" gets you yelled at, not congratulated.

The other pillar of the Western tradition, Christianity, has been challenged and dismantled and dismissed for three hundred years now. That was the European Enlightenment (hooray). There's still Christianity, of course, and it's still hugely influential, but you are allowed to question it.

Why didn't the same happen for the Greek pillar?

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Hmm, maybe we have to peel things back one layer at a time. We've dealt with the christianity layer – next up is the greeks!

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Aug 5Liked by David Chapman

I was hoping you might write about that post 😀

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What were you hoping I would write? Did I?

I don't think I did, really... Yesterday afternoon's draft had a thousand words at the front that was actually about Scott's post, and Charlie read it and said "this part sucks, nobody cares about some substack tempest in a teapot, remove it, the vajrayana stuff is great" so I did. (They were right, I think.)

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Aug 5Liked by David Chapman

You can always funnel the dross into Notes

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In particular I think pointing out the limits of Western metaphysics, and articulating or pointing to a viable alternative, in active discourse is indeed cool and very warranted. Helps land what can otherwise be....abstract.

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Aug 6Liked by David Chapman

Pretty much the direction you took it, about vajrayana alternatives. I also like the Notes idea though!

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Aug 7Liked by David Chapman

One skepticism that arises for me - the history of Indo-Tibetan societies is not very inspiring in this regard, is it? Vajrayana has been available there for centuries, and both Christian and Greek influences are pretty distant from those cultures.

What you propose may work for certain individuals but would it work at larger scales?

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Um, not sure what you are asking. Vajrayana isn't a social or political theory. There are some social and political theories developed by authors who practiced Vajrayana, but it's not part of the religion. Vajrayana *was* the state religion of much of Asia during the Pala Dynasty. Whether that was good is hard to say. (Compared with what available alternative?) It's still the state religion of Bhutan, and there are clear Vajrayana influences on the way it was recently governed.

Or maybe you are asking: what percent of the population could realistically practice Vajrayana seriously? I don't know. It has never been more than a small fraction who did. Maybe it could be a larger fraction. Maybe that would be good! Or bad. I don't know. It's always been considered difficult and requiring dedication and maybe innate capacity.

There's been now more than 150 years of diverse movements to scale up lay Buddhist practice, with varying degrees of success. A pretty significant fraction of Americans have learned McMindfulness, and probably on the whole that's good. But it is a weak sauce. Maybe not many people can tolerate more than that.

Maybe a "Mc" version of Vajrayana which hundreds of millions of people could practice would be good. Maybe it would be terrible. I don't know! It doesn't seem imminent. On the other hand, Evolving Ground *does* intend to scale up. Not, however, at the expense of what it considers essential, even if the essential elements are difficult for most people.

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Aug 7Liked by David Chapman

I think I am doing this right now. It started on July 10th. Last month.

I don't have much to say except... no God-Emperor is an island.

Let's keep an eye out for one another and work together when it makes sense.

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Aug 5·edited Aug 5Liked by David Chapman

That last paragraph you quoted sure reminds me of something else I read from a different 19th century philosopher also interested in overcoming conventional morality:

“…after the enslaving subordination of the individual to the division of labor, and therewith also the antithesis between mental and physical labor, has vanished; after labor has become not only a means of life but life's prime want; after the productive forces have also increased with the all-around development of the individual, and all the springs of co-operative wealth flow more abundantly – only then can the narrow horizon of bourgeois right be crossed in its entirety and society inscribe on its banners: From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs!”

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Aug 27Liked by David Chapman

This gets me thinking of athletics. I think that’s the part of my life that aligns best with this mentality. I would love to see a Virtue Olympics.

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Aug 24Liked by David Chapman

Dear David,

Thanks as always. I was wondering if here or in the future you might add to your great statement about the self being "empty," where you add "whatever that means—no one can explain clearly!"

That's just great. I'd love to hear you list the many ways in which it has been unclearly explained!

All best,

Daniel

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Thanks! “Emptiness” is a mass of different, semi-related vague ideas, leading to many confusions and mystifications. Usually when people set out to set this right, they try to explain “what emptiness really is.” Unfortunately, it’s no one thing. And now there’s 2000 years of people giving different interpretations, many of them with important but hard-to-pin-down insights. That would make sorting the whole thing out a gigantic project :(

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Aug 25Liked by David Chapman

I realize it’s a contested term. I was very happy you were so glib and matter of fact about it. You often sort out quite “giant projects” as you go about your writing. I suspect you are going to address this inadvertently on the way to explaining something else.

Thanks again, D.

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Aug 19·edited Aug 19Liked by David Chapman

Great post. I thought it was funny that you quoted Scott, as it's related to the main problem with their philosophy - they think all humans arrive at birth with a number called IQ and having a bigger one makes you automatically better at everything. (This is bad because they imagined inventing a computer with a higher IQ than them, decided it was obviously going to enslave them, and now resent the imaginary computer for it.)

I'm not sure modern societies actually use slave morality that much though. Venkatesh Rao had a blog essay about the middle class where IIRC he said the modern approach was for everyone to invent a personal rating scale where they were #1, and then we all agree not to compare notes. This always sounded nice to me.

Also… I know Californians tend to think Buddhism is a kind of therapy, and presumably I should be disagreeing with that. But when I read your writing it's hard to avoid thinking this!

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Thanks! I liked that Venkat post too (I think; not sure I'm thinking of the same one, but it sounds right in any case.)

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Aug 13Liked by David Chapman

One other question was how many similarities there are between the life of Gesar and that of Genghis Khan. Do you think the details to Khan’s life were added to make him a kind of prophetic fulfillment of Gesar’s return, or was Gesar’s epic altered after Khan’s passing, incorporating many incredible details from the Khan’s life to further embellish the raucously entertaining story of Gesar’s?

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Interesting questions! I don't know the history well enough to answer, I'm afraid. Glad you found the post enjoyable, however!

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Aug 13Liked by David Chapman

I enjoyed the post very much. Particularly as it sent me down a Gesar rabbit hole I didn’t know I needed to go down.

Today it suddenly occurred to me the similarities between your god emperor thesis with the Chinese classic, “Journey to the West.”

In it, the Monkey King, Sun Wukong (Ape aware of nothingness, a pun name that could basically make him any of us), first becomes a world conqueror rebelling against heaven itself, before being imprisoned by the Buddha for 500 years with a prophecy that the man who frees him will be his new master/teacher.

What’s interesting about this story is that Monkey is actually awakened before the meat of the story begins. He’s already an immortal with nearly-omnipotent powers, capable of 72 transformations.

But to become a true Buddha, he must stop being the main character and join three other disciples accompanying a weak, naive and even foolish monk on his quest to attain scriptures to save mankind. While not overtly stated, he acts as a kind of Bodhisattva, taking on whatever guise will help his master overcome the obstacles needed to fulfill his own enlightenment path.

The flesh of a monk as pure as his master is said to bestow immortality on whoever eats it, so when the demons come to devour the party, Monkey kills. A lot.

Monkey is also described as a “Thunder God” which is a reference to a kind of penitent demon or militant guardian often placed outside Buddhist temples to guard the gates. Another familiar figure who served this function in temples built under Alexander the Great’s successors in India was Heracles, usually shown guarding Gautama himself.

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Aug 11Liked by David Chapman

Yay thank you! Despite not having as extensive knowledge of eastern philosophy, my husband and I came to exactly the same conclusions while reading and discussing Nietzsche's ideas, that western philosophy's characterizations of character are very binary and therefore incomplete. And of course it's not surprising that the east figured it out, it had way more people thus way more shots at getting it right I suppose!

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Aug 11Liked by David Chapman

Our conclusion was basically identical, that everyone should be a priest-king and its good to know that reasonable thought frameworks exist for arriving at this.

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Aug 9Liked by David Chapman

I have so much fun reading your work! The humor interspersed has me LOLing

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